Advice From A Tough Guy [He Took Pity On Me, And Gave Me Some Advice To Get My Life Going]

"If You Want To Get Something, You've Got To WANT IT, And WANT IT Really Bad."

You can't be a pussie about it.
You got to GO OUT THERE and get what you want.
Don't let anybody tell you different.

"You've Got To Want It So Bad, It Hurts."

You see when you want something so bad it hurts,
you're sending a message to yourself,
a message of threat,
a message of urgency,
and your body,
your whole being,
responds by giving you a surge of energy.

It's like the adrenaline-rush you get when you're engaged in "flight or fight".
You get a big boost of energy that just propels you into action.

"Know What You Want."
"You've Got To Be 100% Clear On What You Want."
"You've Got To Put What You Want Dead In Your Sights And Then Go After It Like Satan Himself Is Driving You."

They say that men are hunters by nature.
I don't know.
It seems to me that this advice could be applied by women who are stuck as well.

"People Will Tell You To Forget About Your Dreams,
To Forget About Things You Really Want."
"You're Not Being 'Realistic'."
"You're Not Being 'Practical'."
"You're Not 'Thinking Things Through'."
"TO HELL WITH THEM !"
"They Aren't Living Your Life."
"They Don't Know What SHIT You're Going Through."
"They Don't Know About How Bad You Want Something."
"They're Just Stuck In Their Mediocre World,
With Their Mediocre Job,
And Their Mediocre Life."
"They Gave Up On Dreaming A Long Time Ago,
And Now The Pussies Want To Take Your Dreams To."
"Just Give Them The F#%^ING Finger And Do What You Want,
And To Hell What They Think!"

I would add to my friend's tirade that,
above all else,
be true to yourself,
and if part of your truth isn't telling people to f-off,
don't do it,
you're just forcing yourself to be something you're not,
and that can never turn out well.

"Yeagh Sure."
"Maybe You Screw Up."
"Maybe You Mess Up."
"Maybe You Screw Up And Mess Up Everything."
"Everything Goes To Shit."
"You Wind Up Feeling Like A Big Pile Of Cow Crap."
"So What?"
"Screwing Up Is Part Of Life."
"If You Don't Screw Up, You Aren't Living."
"Feel Like Crap."
"Sure. Feel Like The Biggest Crap Ever Taken."
"But Don't Let It Stop You."
"Don't Let It Hold You Back From Moving Forward."
"Keep Moving Forward."
"Keep Moving Forward."

I have to admit...
It's really helpful to hear somebody be direct and forthcoming.
Somebody passionate.
Somebody who lights a fire in a person's belly.
It's quite wonderful.

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It's about PASSION.
A PASSION For Life.
Such an intensity that it churns out in rough, crude language,
because it is too RAW,
it is too WILD,
for the confines of regular speech.

Oftentimes, meaning gets confused in polite speech and can lose all its intensity,
all of its ability to really effect positive change in a person's life.

Oftentimes...you just need to speak plainly and that can mean crude, brisk, even boorish language.
But, that is what intensity is for.

The Friends You Gather Over The Years, Are The Forces Which Shape You Into Who You Are

"The Friends You Gather Over The Years,
Are The Forces Which Shape You Into Who You Are,
And The Tools Which Will Help Build Who You Become."

"Keep In Touch With The Friends Of Your Life.
They Will Help Give You Perspective On Where You've Been,
And Where You Are Going."

"And Friends Put A Smile On Your Face,
Which Comes From A Deep And True Place."

If Someone Does Not Give You The Advice You Need, Thank Them, And Seek Advice From Someone Else

"If Someone Does Not Give You The Advice You Need, Thank Them,
And Seek Advice From Someone Else."

Life is much too big for one person to give you all the perspective you need.
When you need additional perspective, seek advice from someone else.

You Need Friends. For If You Do Not Have Friends, You Are Alone.

"You Need Friends.
You Need Friends To Have Someone To Talk To.
You Need Friends To Provide You With Perspective.
You Need Friends To Introduce You To New Experiences,
You Wouldn't Have Had On Your Own.
You Need Friends To Support You When You Feel Like You're Falling.
You Need Friends For You To Have People To Care About,
To Have People You Want To Love, Help, And Care About.
You Need Friends,
For If You Do Not Have Friends, You Are Alone.
And People Weren't Meant To Be Alone."

Human Beings Are Not Meant To Be Alone.
Human Beings Are A Social Creature By Design.
When We Are Alone, We Are Acting Against Our Nature.
Such Living Cannot Be But Painful.

...this piece of advice is especially pertinent to me...
i have been a loner in my heart my whole life.
maybe it's time to start reaching out on my part...

Here's a nice poem on friendship I found on the net :

People need people and friends need friends,
And we all need love for a full life depends-
Not on vast riches or great acclaim,
Not on success or on worldly fame,
But just in knowing that someone cares,
And holds us close in their thoughts and prayers-
For only the knowledge that we’re understood,
Makes everyday living feel wonderfully good,
And we rob ourselves of life’s greatest need,
When we “lock up our hearts” and fail to heed,
The outstretched hand reaching to find,
A kindred spirit whose heart and mind,
Are lonely and longing to somehow share,
Our joys and sorrows and to make us aware,
That life’s completeness and richness depends,
On the things we share with our loved ones,
and friends.

- Helen Steiner Rice

When You Are Stuck, Let The Pressures Push And Pull You Towards A Destination

"When You Are Stuck, Let The Pressures Push And Pull You.
Let Them Push And Pull You From All sides.
Be Aware Of The Pressures Inside Of You.
Know That The Pressures You Feel Are Pushing And Pulling You,
Pushing And Pulling You Towards A Destination.
The Destination Itself Is A Pressure.
Maybe The Destination You Are Heading Towards Isn't The One You Think You Want.
That In Itself Becomes A Pressure.
Pushing And Pulling You.

Be Aware Of The Pressures Inside Of You.
When You Want To Move Forward,
Don't Block The Pressures Out.
Although, Blocking The Pressures Is In Itself A Pressure.
In That Case, Acknowledge It.

When You Are Stuck, Let The Pressures Push And Pull You.
The Pressures Will Push And Pull You Towards A Destination.
It May Not Be A Destination You Want,
But That In Itself Is A Pressure,
Which Will Push And Pull You On."

If You Can't Put Your Thoughts Into Words, Don't Dwell, Know Wordlessly

"If You Can't Put Your Thoughts Into Words, Don't Dwell, Know Wordlessly."

Words are only primitive containers for the infinite complexity of life.

If you can't find the words to describe your thoughts and perceptions,
choose not to label them,
and know them wordlessly.

Repeat Yourself, Even If You Wind Up Repeating Yourself

"Repeat Yourself, Even If You Wind Up Repeating Yourself."

Sometimes it is difficult to be creative in the way you are expressing yourself.
Sometimes you can't find the nifty words, or the stylish zingers.
Sometimes you feel about as inventive as a blocky, grey, brick.

That's fine.

If you still feel the strong need to express yourself,
to communicate your thoughts and feelings,
just repeat yourself.

If you still need to express yourself,
repeat yourself again.

Try to modify what you're saying a little if you can, but, if you can't, don't worry about it.
Just keep repeating yourself.
You'll get your point across somehow.

A Power All It's Own

Blind repetition has a power all its own.

You will find that despite the fact you are about as creative as a parrot,
your words seem to have a strength and emphasis they didn't have before,
just by the sheer virtue of piling the same thoughts and ideas on top of each other,
over and over and over and over...

You're A Loser. That's Fine. Just Make Sure To Tell People About It.

"You're A Loser.
You've Wasted Your Life.
Life Has Passed You By.
That's Fine.
Just Make Sure To Tell People About It."

I feel that my life has been one big meaningless pile of garbage everyday of my painful existence.

I know.
I know.
I should stop wallowing in self-pity.
I should look on the bright side.
I should count my blessings.
I should stop feeling badly because it's pathetic and counter-productive.
Thank you.
But, that doesn't help.

No.
What people who feel their life has been a mistake should do,
is tell other people this truth.
Why?
Because it is truth.
It is THEIR truth.
It is truth and there is nothing more pure than truth.

Sharing this sad and broken truth with others helps.
It truly does.

Losers who speak truly about their failure are a caution and a warning to others.
The caution is made all the more powerful by the sincerity with which a Loser speaks.
The sadness and weariness that can be heard in their voice.

There Is No Such Thing As A Bad Emotion

"There Is No Such Thing As 'Bad Emotions'.
There Is No Such Thing As 'Wrong Feelings'.
All Emotions Have Their Reason For Being.
The Thing To Do Is To Understand,
'Where' The Feelings Come From,
'What' Caused The Emotions To Arise."

The Moment Of Crux

What Is It?

The Moment Of Crux is a Pivotal Experience where you find yourself forced to confront the parts of your life which you have previously been ignoring.

Be Aware

Be aware of when you experience The Moment Of Crux for it is in this experience that you are provided with your great opportunity for change or growth.

Accelerate The Moment Of Crux

If you feel that your life is at a standstill, consider accelerating The Moment Of Crux.

God knows it is terrifying...
but after the pain and scars have passed,
you will be clear to find a healthy, helpful path.

When Your Soul Is Dark And Your Heart Is Cold,

"When Your Soul Is Dark And Your Heart Is Cold,
Know This : The Sun WILL Rise,
And You WILL Feel Better." - Modified from Castaway