When You Go On A Trip, You Remember The Highlights, But It Is The Little Details Which Made It A Trip, And Not Just A Destination

When you go on a trip,
you remember the highlights,
but not all the details,
but it is the little details which made the trip a journey,
and not just a destination,
without the details,
the trip would have just been going from one place to another.

Oftentimes, people will wonder why it is so difficult for you to do things.
To them it is just so easy to get from Point A to Point B,
but that is because they do not know all the invisible points which lie between.

The 2 Great Emotional Keys To Self - Integration

They are 2 simple statements,
direct, instinctive reactions,to life experiences,
which indicate, one's emotional resonance to an experience.

1. That feels right
2. That doesn't feel right

These are emotional clues to the state of your feelings.

Act in Accord with your feelings,
or you risk causing a split within yourself.

Don't Feel Quite Right, Don't Feel Truly Good, Don't Feel Genuinely Happy, Don't Worry. You're Perfectly Normal

"Don't Feel Quite Right, Don't Feel Truly Good, Don't Feel Genuinely Happy, Don't Worry.
You're Perfectly Normal." - David Julio Wang

The Human Experience has been a very long and painful one for our species.

Miscommunication.
Misunderstanding.
Missed Feelings.

We are all covered with scars, and tattered and torn from countless wounds, both seen, and mostly, unseen.

So, when you are contemplating the fact that you are afraid to turn your head and look at your feelings,
don't feel you are alone,
you are not,
you are another, perfectly normal, fairly neurotic, human being.

And don't worry.
Things are going to get better.
The more we talk freely and openly about our feelings,
the healthier and happier and wholer our species will be.

Hold on.
Things are going to become truly good.

Walk Your Own Path, Even If You Believe You Know The Outcome,

"Walk Your Own Path, Even If You Believe You Know The Outcome.
For Walking The Path Presents Details You Had Never Thought Of Before,
And It Is These Details, These Little Moments, Which Truly Add Color To Your Life."
- David Julio Wang

Most people would have worded this advice as,
"Sometimes you just have to make your mistakes before you learn."

I cannot stand the patronizing, condescending, irritated tone I associate with the hearing of this advice.
It is advice one could give to a child,
but giving the advice does not mean the child is stupid.

We have to stop treating each other so poorly.
Can't we see the pain we cause? the lasting damage?

Life thought of as triumphs and mistakes is a very black and white world indeed,
and lest we forget,
"human beings see in color."

If You Cannot Push Yourself, Allow Others To Push You, Until Enough Momentum Builds Inside Yourself, That You Are Able To Move On Your Own

"If You Cannot Push Yourself, Allow Others To Push You,
Until Enough Momentum Builds Inside Yourself,
That You Are Able To Move On Your Own." - David Julio Wang

I have always doubted myself and let fear strangle me.

The admonition push yourself was always playing itself in my mind,
but it was fear which drove me.

This is not a world of being true to yourself yet,
it is still a world of wearing masks to protect ourselves.

If such a world is tiresome to you,
but, like me,
you are too scared to act on your feelings,
let others push you around,
you will still be true to yourself,
and one day,
the caterpillar of your true self will be ready to emerge as a butterfly of true self expression.

Always Listen To Your Heart, Even When What It Says Is Excrutiatingly Painful, For Your Heart Is Who You Truly Are

"Always Listen To Your Heart, Even When What It Says Is Excrutiatingly Painful, For Your Heart Is Who You Truly Are.
Deny Your Heart,
And You Deny Yourself,
And You Will Always Be Left Feeling That You Have Never Lived Your Life."
- David Julio Wang

All the girls I was drawn to, but never talked to.

All the people I was drawn to, but never spoke to.

All the adventures I was drawn to, but never went on.

All the things I never said, but needed to.

Always held back by fear of being hurt.

Always feeling the sands of time slipping by around me,
but always ignoring them believing that someday I would stop letting them slip.

Draw Your Lines In Life. This Far, No Further.

"Draw Your Lines In Life. This Far, No Further.
So That Life Does Not Pass You By." - David Julio Wang

If you do not draw lines for yourself,
lines of what you are not willing to let pass by you in life,
you can find that life has passed you by,
without you ever having lived it.

I'm 29 and I have never had a real relationship with a girl.

Pathetic. I know.

Why?
I don't like myself enough to feel worthy to pursue a relationship.

My apologies if this is too much information,
but take it as a caution,
a warning,
"The Regrets Of The Older, Are The Lessons Of The Younger."

Put Your Words Outside Of Yourself

"Hold Your Words Outside Of You,
Like Precious Stones To Be Examined Under the Light Of Someone Else's Truth."
- David Julio Wang

Put your words out of you.
When you show them to others,
You hold them up for you yourself to look at and contemplate.

Feel And Feel Deeply, For The More Feelings You Have, The More Fuel You Have For Actions

"Feel And Feel Deeply, For The More Feelings You Have,
The More Fuel You Have For Actions.
The Purer Your Feelings,
The Purer The Fuel For Actions You Will Have."
- David Julio Wang

My feelings are always very strong.
Pulsing deep inside of me like the powerful heart-fueled experiences they are.

I need to reason out why I have such powerful emotions and how I can use them to guide my way.

Set Limits Which Resonate With Your Inner Truth

New Year's Resolutions are an example of foolish limits which do not add to a person's life for they are made with the cheap plastic of party favors.

No.

True Resolutions are ones which come from the heart,
and that is where they should be made from.

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True Limits are ones which you can feel resonating with yourself,
which feel like they have the Light Of Truth in them.

True Limits don't feel like limits, rather they feel like signs which tell you where you need to go.

Allow Yourself To Be Rejected, For The Agony Of Rejection, Truly Felt, Can Be Turned Into The Energy Of Truth

"The Meeting Of Truths."

When you present your truth to another person,
when you present it fully and honestly and truthfully,
you are in a position to receive truth back.

It very often is frightening though, because so very often the truth you have to say is one which others do not want to hear,
a truth which illicits anger in others.

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Thinking this has always paralyzed me with fear.

Even though the need to do so was pressing...so very pressing.

Set "True" Limits, So Life Does Not Pass You By

"Set Limits, So Life Does Not Pass You By."

Fear is a perfectly natural feeling, but it can result in you letting life pass you by.

It is easy to take the more familiar path,
the easier path,
the path which is less frightening,
but doing so can leave you feeling reamed out and hollow inside.

That is why it is a good idea for you to set limits on how far you will let your life slide before you will make sure that you act.

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Now, I have always personally rebelled against the idea of setting limits.
It felt too constrictive and restrictive and I highly value my freedom to direct and guide my own life without the idea that I am bound nor committed to any one path.

But nearly 30 years (god...so much wasted life...) of having lived a life which feels devoid of purpose and joy is enough.
I'm exhausted with regrets...

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I thought it would be illustrative to write down some of the limits which I will not compromise on.

1. Sun Protection
I can't go out in the sun without a Legionnaire Style Sun Hat, Sunglasses (with 100% UVA / UVB protection), and Sunscreen.
My face is already a far cry from the image I had of myself as an adult.
I do not want to further compound my disgust, by continuing to wantonly go out in the sun and have my skin battered and destroyed by its unforgiving rays.

2. Brushing My Teeth
I very occasionally forget to brush my teeth or am too exhausted to do so, but most of the time I'm very good about it.
...sorry if that's too much information, but, i'm tired of lying all the time, or, even holding back.

I'm tired of the gross feeling I get on my teeth when I haven't brushed.
I also miss how beautiful and white my teeth were when I was younger...

3. Washing My Hands
Something which I won't compromise on is washing my hands before I eat.
Thanks Mom!
I don't know if it correlates exactly, but when I don't wash my hands and I eat, I often feel sick afterwards.
Whether or not this is exactly right, the habit of washing my hands is one which I won't yield on.

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hmm...not a very long list...
I guess I don't have a lot of limits which are set deep into my being.

I just haven't lived enough life to know what are true limits for myself.

But,
I do know,
that if a person does not set True Limits for themselves,
their life can pass them by and leave them feeling that they never lived it.

I do know that the secret to setting limits which a person can live with,
limits which will truly help a person to live their life,
is to set limits which reflect a person's internal truth.

The advice I would have given to my younger self would have been to search my inner truth for the limits of my life which i couldn't live with letting pass,
so I wouldn't let those experiences pass me by.