When Trying To Form A Connection With Someone, Think Of Them As A Pet, And Follow The Coinciding Steps

"When Trying To Form A Connection With Someone,
Think Of Them As A Pet, And Follow The Coinciding Steps."

1. Feed Them
2. Talk To Them In A Gentle, Soothing Voice
3. Caress Them (i.e. Stroke Their Ego)
4. Pay Attention To Them
5. Play With Them

People and pets are not so different from one another.

When You Are Overwhelmed By A Painful Experience, Follow These Steps

"When You Are Overwhelmed By A Painful Experience, Follow These Steps :

1. Experience It - Don't Hide From It, Or Pretend It Never Happened. Be True To Yourself And The Experience You Are Having.
   
2. Digest It - Sit In A Comfortable Chair, In The Darkness, In The Silence, And Allow The Experience To Sink In.
   
3. Give It Time - Every Experience Plants A Seed, And That Seed Will Eventually Sprout Into Understanding.
   

Aim To Change The World, For As You Strive To Change The World, You Will Change Yourself

"Aim To Change The World,
For As You Strive To Change The World,
You Will Find That You Yourself Are Changing,
And Changing For The Better." - David Julio Wang

When You Experience Something Overwhelming, Sit Down In A Comfortable Seat, And Let The Silence Speak

"When You Experience Something Overwhelming,
When You Feel Lost And Don't Know What To Do,
When You Have To Make A Decision And Can't Make A Choice,
Sit Down In A Comfortable Seat (A Recliner Preferably),
In The Darkness And The Silence,
And Allow Yourself To Tell Yourself What You Need To Know,
In Short : Let The Silence, Speak."

"Take As Long As You Need.
Let Your Mind Show You What It Needs To Show You."

"Get To Know Yourself.
The Real You.
The You That You Can Only Come To Know When You Are Not Rushing Around,
Trying To Fulfill Obligations, Or Be 'As You Should'.
Once You Take The Time To Know The Real You,
You Will Not Have To Be Worried About The Strain Of Being A Splintered You,
And A Whole You, Will Find Life, Much Easier To Live."

What Would An Uncorrupted Child Say? [Questioning A Persona Technique]

What Would An Uncorrupted Child Say? [Questioning A Persona Technique]

When you want to know the truth,
ask yourself the above question.

When In An Argument, Try To Help Your Opponent Strengthen Their Own Argument

"When In An Argument, Try To Help Your Opponent Strengthen Their Own Argument, For In Doing So, You Ultimately Strengthen Yourself, You Ultimately Elevate Both Of You."

When you are having an argument or a disagreement with someone,
try an unorthodox thing,
try to help your opponent make their argument even stronger.

You are pitted against each other.
You are arguing your point,
they are arguing their point.

It is you against them,
they against you,
both of you are trying to convince the other that your own point is right.

But...
why not try an unusual thing,
why not try to help your opponent,
your adversary,
your opposite,
further develop their own argument,
make their own point stronger,
strengthen the reasoning behind their presentation...

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Perhaps you might believe this is undercutting you,
undermining your own authority,
detracting from your own position,

,but,

Perhaps you are actually helping yourself too.
You are getting to know your opposite's position better.
You are getting to think as they think.
You are helping them to feel better about themselves.
You are coming to appreciate that they are also a thoughtful human being.
You are coming to realize, perhaps they are not so different after all,
that what they are saying, is not so different after all.

If Things Don't Inspire You, Don't Invest Them With Value

"If Things Don't Inspire You, Don't Invest Them With Value."

Things are important, if things aren't important, if things don't inspire you, don't invest them with value, for doing so is a betrayal of yourself.

School : The Waste Of Time

As children we are unfairly taught that what we are learning in school will avail us in our lives and that we must place great value on what we do there.

Since, in truth, adults remember nearly nothing of what they learned during their schooling years, this is really quite unfair.

Trust Yourself

It's up to you.
Only you know you.
Trust your feelings.
Let them guide you.

Don't Betray Yourself

When something doesn't feel important,
don't convince yourself it is.

It's not easy.
This is a world of,
"Life is tough"
"In life you have to do a lot of things you don't want to"
and
"That's just the way it is"

Don't listen to them though.
Trust yourself.
Trust your feelings.
You know what's real,
You know what's important to you.

Give Yourself Time. You'll Get Used To It | Wait For It. It Will Come

"Give Yourself Time. You'll Get Used To It."

"Wait For It. It Will Come."

When faced with the prospect of having to do something unpleasant,
give yourself time to get used to it.

When you are placed in proximity to something unpleasant,
something which repels you, revolts you,
staying near it,
sticking with it is a terribly unrewarding thing.

But...
All in life has in it the seeds of learning.
All in life has splendour and wonder and significance in it.

If you give yourself the time,
you will eventually come to feel it,
and it won't be so bad,
in fact,
it might be quite something special.

Truly,
there is significance in all things.

Bloody Noses And Black Eyes Are Acceptable For Being True To Yourself

Don't be afraid of a bloody nose or a black eye if you are being true to yourself.
People are clumsy.
People are in pain.
Since they cannot express themselves carefully, elegantly,
they flail about like a wounded dinosaur,
and will likely wound you in their pain-provoked rampage.

Just present your truth to people and if they punch you for it, accept this, let it fill you with energy.
You presented your truth and they attacked you for it.
Perhaps you will be angry.
Perhaps you will want to hide.
I don't know, but, whatever happens you will have been given energy from :
1. Expressing yourself truly
2. Having received an honest response from another even if it was painful

Present Your Truth To Others, And If You Are Rejected For It, Use The Rejection As A Source Of Energy

"Present Your Truth To Others, And If You Are Rejected For It, Use The Rejection As A Source Of Energy, For You Presented Your Truth, Thus, You Were True To Yourself, And If You Are Rejected For Presenting Who You Truly Are To Others, Then There Is Nothing For It But To Redouble Your Efforts To Being True To Yourself And Showing That Truth To Others Until One Day, You Are Accepted For Who You Are."

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"The World Will Constantly Ask You To Be Someone You're Not,
Your Obligation To Yourself Is To Stand Firm, And Not Let The World Take Away Who You Are."

Don't despair.
Humanity is going to turn the corner and finally begin acting true to its noble, loving, generous nature.
Just a little more struggle to go...

It's People, Not The Profession, That Matters

"It's People, Not The Profession, That Matters."

"Seek People, Not Professions."

Always Imagine A Better Way

"Always Imagine A Better Way."
"When You Experience Things Which Do Not Feel Right, Which Are Empty And Unsatisfying,
Imagine A Better Way."
"When Life Is Not The Extraordinary Thing It Should Be, Imagine A Better Way It Could Be."
"Don't Be Satisfied With A Middling And Mediocre Existence. Always Be Imagining A Better Way."

Put Yourself In Different Situations, To Experience Different Pressures Pushing Your Life

"Put Yourself In Different Situations, To Experience Different Pressures Pushing Your Life."

School

When you are in school, different pressures push you into your life decisions.

Work Environments

Different Work Environments push you into your life decisions.

People

Different People exert pressures which push you into your life decisions.

Gentle Children

Human Beings are Gentle Children who want to be loved and accepted and follow what the general direction of their environment is.
They want to go with the flow.
Thus, different environments cause children to behave and react in different ways.

Harry Potter - At The Dursely's and at Hogwarts

A perfect example lies in Harry Potter.
Harry at The Durseley's is a completely different person from Harry at Hogwarts.
The change in environment is so powerful.
So is it with everyone.

Explain Through Examples

When You Need To Explain Something, Use An Example That Is Easy To Relate To.

How do you expect a person to feel when they are hungry and they are watching someone else enjoying a large, sumptuous meal?
Naturally, the poor soul who is hungry feels even more hungry and further feels absolutely terrible, sad, maybe angry at the injustice of them being a fellow human being and yet they are condemned to being hungry.
If you have ever known real hunger, I think you can understand how badly another person can feel when they are watching someone else delighting in food.

This is just like life.
When a person is leading a hollow, empty, meaningless life, how can they feel aught but terrible when they see someone else living a life of magnificence?
If you have ever felt your own life was not impressive, I think you can understand how badly a person can feel when they are watching another person living a fulfilling existence.

Be True To Yourself. Don't Betray Yourself. Even If Others Try To Compel You To Do What You Don't Feel Is Right.

"Be True To Yourself.
Even Though Others Try To Compel You To Do What Doesn't Feel Right TO YOU.
Because If You Betray Yourself,
You Will Never Feel That You Are Yourself,
And You Will Not Be Able To Act In Accord With Who You Truly Are.
An Impossible State To Sustain Without Eventually Going Insane."

Keep The Wound Clean

"When An Operation Is Being Conducted, The Wound Is Always Kept Clean Lest It Become Infected And Compound The Difficulty Of The Situation."
"So It Is With Mental And Emotional Problems Too. Pains And Sadnesses Must Always Be Freely Expressed, Lest They Become Infected And Fester And Become Gangrenous."

Always Imagine What Your Ideal World Would Be And Strive To Make It A Reality

"Always Imagine What Your Ideal World Would Be, And Strive To Make It A Reality."

Otherwise, things, life, human existence, does not improve, does not get better, it all just stays the same, stagnant and fetid.

I have a responsibility to myself,
to always continue to imagine what my ideal world would be like,
and strive towards it,
so that all my unhappiness in this life never goes without meaning.

It Is Not What You Know, It's Who You Know, For Anyone Is Capable Of Doing Anything

"It Is Not What You Know, It's Who You Know,
For Anyone Is Capable Of Doing Anything,
Thus Success In Life Comes From Knowing The People,
Who Can Stimulate You To Realizing Your Potential,
And Doing The Anything You Are Fully Capable Of Doing."

If You Can't Talk To Someone, Talk To Someone Else, But Talk To Someone

"If You Can't Talk To Someone, Talk To Someone Else, But Talk To Someone,
Because If You Keep Everything Inside,
The Pressure Will Keep You From Being Able To Move Forward In Life."

You Have To Tell Somebody The Truth

"You Have To Tell Somebody The Truth,
Otherwise Lies Will Weigh You Down Like Heavy Stones,
Impeding You From Being Able To Move Forward In Life."

Advice From A Tough Guy [He Took Pity On Me, And Gave Me Some Advice To Get My Life Going]

"If You Want To Get Something, You've Got To WANT IT, And WANT IT Really Bad."

You can't be a pussie about it.
You got to GO OUT THERE and get what you want.
Don't let anybody tell you different.

"You've Got To Want It So Bad, It Hurts."

You see when you want something so bad it hurts,
you're sending a message to yourself,
a message of threat,
a message of urgency,
and your body,
your whole being,
responds by giving you a surge of energy.

It's like the adrenaline-rush you get when you're engaged in "flight or fight".
You get a big boost of energy that just propels you into action.

"Know What You Want."
"You've Got To Be 100% Clear On What You Want."
"You've Got To Put What You Want Dead In Your Sights And Then Go After It Like Satan Himself Is Driving You."

They say that men are hunters by nature.
I don't know.
It seems to me that this advice could be applied by women who are stuck as well.

"People Will Tell You To Forget About Your Dreams,
To Forget About Things You Really Want."
"You're Not Being 'Realistic'."
"You're Not Being 'Practical'."
"You're Not 'Thinking Things Through'."
"TO HELL WITH THEM !"
"They Aren't Living Your Life."
"They Don't Know What SHIT You're Going Through."
"They Don't Know About How Bad You Want Something."
"They're Just Stuck In Their Mediocre World,
With Their Mediocre Job,
And Their Mediocre Life."
"They Gave Up On Dreaming A Long Time Ago,
And Now The Pussies Want To Take Your Dreams To."
"Just Give Them The F#%^ING Finger And Do What You Want,
And To Hell What They Think!"

I would add to my friend's tirade that,
above all else,
be true to yourself,
and if part of your truth isn't telling people to f-off,
don't do it,
you're just forcing yourself to be something you're not,
and that can never turn out well.

"Yeagh Sure."
"Maybe You Screw Up."
"Maybe You Mess Up."
"Maybe You Screw Up And Mess Up Everything."
"Everything Goes To Shit."
"You Wind Up Feeling Like A Big Pile Of Cow Crap."
"So What?"
"Screwing Up Is Part Of Life."
"If You Don't Screw Up, You Aren't Living."
"Feel Like Crap."
"Sure. Feel Like The Biggest Crap Ever Taken."
"But Don't Let It Stop You."
"Don't Let It Hold You Back From Moving Forward."
"Keep Moving Forward."
"Keep Moving Forward."

I have to admit...
It's really helpful to hear somebody be direct and forthcoming.
Somebody passionate.
Somebody who lights a fire in a person's belly.
It's quite wonderful.

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It's about PASSION.
A PASSION For Life.
Such an intensity that it churns out in rough, crude language,
because it is too RAW,
it is too WILD,
for the confines of regular speech.

Oftentimes, meaning gets confused in polite speech and can lose all its intensity,
all of its ability to really effect positive change in a person's life.

Oftentimes...you just need to speak plainly and that can mean crude, brisk, even boorish language.
But, that is what intensity is for.

The Friends You Gather Over The Years, Are The Forces Which Shape You Into Who You Are

"The Friends You Gather Over The Years,
Are The Forces Which Shape You Into Who You Are,
And The Tools Which Will Help Build Who You Become."

"Keep In Touch With The Friends Of Your Life.
They Will Help Give You Perspective On Where You've Been,
And Where You Are Going."

"And Friends Put A Smile On Your Face,
Which Comes From A Deep And True Place."

If Someone Does Not Give You The Advice You Need, Thank Them, And Seek Advice From Someone Else

"If Someone Does Not Give You The Advice You Need, Thank Them,
And Seek Advice From Someone Else."

Life is much too big for one person to give you all the perspective you need.
When you need additional perspective, seek advice from someone else.

You Need Friends. For If You Do Not Have Friends, You Are Alone.

"You Need Friends.
You Need Friends To Have Someone To Talk To.
You Need Friends To Provide You With Perspective.
You Need Friends To Introduce You To New Experiences,
You Wouldn't Have Had On Your Own.
You Need Friends To Support You When You Feel Like You're Falling.
You Need Friends For You To Have People To Care About,
To Have People You Want To Love, Help, And Care About.
You Need Friends,
For If You Do Not Have Friends, You Are Alone.
And People Weren't Meant To Be Alone."

Human Beings Are Not Meant To Be Alone.
Human Beings Are A Social Creature By Design.
When We Are Alone, We Are Acting Against Our Nature.
Such Living Cannot Be But Painful.

...this piece of advice is especially pertinent to me...
i have been a loner in my heart my whole life.
maybe it's time to start reaching out on my part...

Here's a nice poem on friendship I found on the net :

People need people and friends need friends,
And we all need love for a full life depends-
Not on vast riches or great acclaim,
Not on success or on worldly fame,
But just in knowing that someone cares,
And holds us close in their thoughts and prayers-
For only the knowledge that we’re understood,
Makes everyday living feel wonderfully good,
And we rob ourselves of life’s greatest need,
When we “lock up our hearts” and fail to heed,
The outstretched hand reaching to find,
A kindred spirit whose heart and mind,
Are lonely and longing to somehow share,
Our joys and sorrows and to make us aware,
That life’s completeness and richness depends,
On the things we share with our loved ones,
and friends.

- Helen Steiner Rice

When You Are Stuck, Let The Pressures Push And Pull You Towards A Destination

"When You Are Stuck, Let The Pressures Push And Pull You.
Let Them Push And Pull You From All sides.
Be Aware Of The Pressures Inside Of You.
Know That The Pressures You Feel Are Pushing And Pulling You,
Pushing And Pulling You Towards A Destination.
The Destination Itself Is A Pressure.
Maybe The Destination You Are Heading Towards Isn't The One You Think You Want.
That In Itself Becomes A Pressure.
Pushing And Pulling You.

Be Aware Of The Pressures Inside Of You.
When You Want To Move Forward,
Don't Block The Pressures Out.
Although, Blocking The Pressures Is In Itself A Pressure.
In That Case, Acknowledge It.

When You Are Stuck, Let The Pressures Push And Pull You.
The Pressures Will Push And Pull You Towards A Destination.
It May Not Be A Destination You Want,
But That In Itself Is A Pressure,
Which Will Push And Pull You On."

If You Can't Put Your Thoughts Into Words, Don't Dwell, Know Wordlessly

"If You Can't Put Your Thoughts Into Words, Don't Dwell, Know Wordlessly."

Words are only primitive containers for the infinite complexity of life.

If you can't find the words to describe your thoughts and perceptions,
choose not to label them,
and know them wordlessly.

Repeat Yourself, Even If You Wind Up Repeating Yourself

"Repeat Yourself, Even If You Wind Up Repeating Yourself."

Sometimes it is difficult to be creative in the way you are expressing yourself.
Sometimes you can't find the nifty words, or the stylish zingers.
Sometimes you feel about as inventive as a blocky, grey, brick.

That's fine.

If you still feel the strong need to express yourself,
to communicate your thoughts and feelings,
just repeat yourself.

If you still need to express yourself,
repeat yourself again.

Try to modify what you're saying a little if you can, but, if you can't, don't worry about it.
Just keep repeating yourself.
You'll get your point across somehow.

A Power All It's Own

Blind repetition has a power all its own.

You will find that despite the fact you are about as creative as a parrot,
your words seem to have a strength and emphasis they didn't have before,
just by the sheer virtue of piling the same thoughts and ideas on top of each other,
over and over and over and over...

You're A Loser. That's Fine. Just Make Sure To Tell People About It.

"You're A Loser.
You've Wasted Your Life.
Life Has Passed You By.
That's Fine.
Just Make Sure To Tell People About It."

I feel that my life has been one big meaningless pile of garbage everyday of my painful existence.

I know.
I know.
I should stop wallowing in self-pity.
I should look on the bright side.
I should count my blessings.
I should stop feeling badly because it's pathetic and counter-productive.
Thank you.
But, that doesn't help.

No.
What people who feel their life has been a mistake should do,
is tell other people this truth.
Why?
Because it is truth.
It is THEIR truth.
It is truth and there is nothing more pure than truth.

Sharing this sad and broken truth with others helps.
It truly does.

Losers who speak truly about their failure are a caution and a warning to others.
The caution is made all the more powerful by the sincerity with which a Loser speaks.
The sadness and weariness that can be heard in their voice.

There Is No Such Thing As A Bad Emotion

"There Is No Such Thing As 'Bad Emotions'.
There Is No Such Thing As 'Wrong Feelings'.
All Emotions Have Their Reason For Being.
The Thing To Do Is To Understand,
'Where' The Feelings Come From,
'What' Caused The Emotions To Arise."

The Moment Of Crux

What Is It?

The Moment Of Crux is a Pivotal Experience where you find yourself forced to confront the parts of your life which you have previously been ignoring.

Be Aware

Be aware of when you experience The Moment Of Crux for it is in this experience that you are provided with your great opportunity for change or growth.

Accelerate The Moment Of Crux

If you feel that your life is at a standstill, consider accelerating The Moment Of Crux.

God knows it is terrifying...
but after the pain and scars have passed,
you will be clear to find a healthy, helpful path.

When Your Soul Is Dark And Your Heart Is Cold,

"When Your Soul Is Dark And Your Heart Is Cold,
Know This : The Sun WILL Rise,
And You WILL Feel Better." - Modified from Castaway

Tell People About Your Dreams And Goals And Wishes And Hopes

"Tell People About Your Dreams And Goals And Wishes And Hopes,
Even If They Sound Far-Fetched.
Why?
Because It's Important To Tell People About What You Want Your Life To Mean." - David Julio Wang

Parable of the Log

If your life is not progressing, you have to tell people.

A log has blocked the flow of your life, the flow of your chakra.
An emotional log.

If time has passed, and you have not moved forward,
you have already been trying to move the log on your own.
The log has not moved and you feel the effects of being stuck.

If the log is very stuck, you will need help to pry it loose.

Perhaps it has become wrenched in between rocks, or
tangled in vines.
Perhaps you will need to seek other people with special knowledge to help you free the log.

Once you have freed the log, your life, your chakra, can flow once more.

To Accomplish Your Goals, Try On Your Own, If It Doesn't Work

"To Accomplish Your Goals, Try On Your Own, If It Doesn't Work
Get Help
Try On Your Own Again
Get More Help
Keep Trying On Your Own
Get Still More Help
Repeat Over And Over Until You Have Fulfilled Your Dreams." - David Julio Wang

Somewhere along the line of striving on your own, and getting help you will realize your dreams.

Personality Tests - Who Am I? Finding Answers By Answering Life Questions

1. True Colors
2. Myers-Briggs
3. Keirsey's Temperament Sorter

What Do You Do? What Would You Do?

Know Yourself,
by mentally exploring your likely reactions to different scenarios.

Who Is This Person?

Have people in your life take the Personality Tests too,
and better understand who they are by seeing their reaction to different hypothetical situations.

Parable of The Building

Problems are like a building.
Alone you can only see so much of the building, with the solution to your problem lying in the back,
where you can't see it.
You will find it, if you spend enough time walking around the building, but you lose so many years,
when someone could have pointed out the solution because they were examining your problem too.

That said, sometimes the Journey of traveling around the building will you teach you things you would not have experienced otherwise.

The kicker, the crux, the tell, the truth,
is how you feel.
If you are not content where you are, and you want more,
seek help to find the answers you need.

Parable of The Wagon

Do Not Betray Yourself

"Do Not Betray Yourself.
Honesty.
Make Sure That The Actions Your Perform Are In Accord
With Your Truest Self,
That They Are A Reflection Of Your Genuine Wishes.

If You Betray Yourself,
You Compromise And Weaken Yourself.
Being So Weakened Diminishes And Darkens Your Whole Life.

You Don't Have Yourself.
You Kick Out The Legs Upon Which You Were Standing." - David Julio WAng

When you do things that don't feel right to you,
you are betraying yourself.

A voice inside of you is protesting,
and ignoring it will only make it louder.

You can bury it and bury it and bury it,
but,
like a pebble in your shoe,
it will always be hobbling you,
preventing you from truly striding forth in life.

Don't betray yourself.

Need Help? Ask For Help. Still Need Help? Ask For More Help.

"Need Help? Ask For Help.
Still Need Help? Ask For More Help.
Still Need Help? Ask For Still More Help.
Still Need Help? Ask For More Help Still.
Still Need Help? Keep On Asking Until The Day You Can Finally Say,
'I'm Good. I Don't Need Help Anymore. Now, I'm Ready To Help.'" - David Julio Wang

How long do you want to let life pass you by?
How long do you want to let your dreams go undeveloped?
If you can't make your beautiful visions a reality on your own,
get help doing so.

If you get help, but it's not enough, get more help.
Keep on getting help until you feel good.

Limiter : "Don't be needy."
"You're just using people."
"You'll never stand on your own feet."

We're here on this Earth to help each other.
Human beings are naturally noble creatures.
When a person feels in a place that they can genuinely help, they will, without question.
That is the truth of human nature.

How Much Life Are You Willing To Let Pass You By Before You Ask For Help? - Words From A Wise Psychologist

Me : I just feel I need to do things on my own, to make it on my own, to make my dreams come true with my own two hands.

Psychologist : Alright.
But.
How long do you want to try to do things on your own?
A month?
A year?
10 years?
You may struggle on your own for a long time,
and find that you feel the time was lost and wasted.

Me : ...

Psychologist : I don't want to see you wind up 30, 40, 50 years old and full of regrets.
Try to do things on your own,
but,
if you are not reaching your goals,
don't lose too much time struggling without success.
Don't let your dreams and youth slip away without you feeling fulfilled.

Tell others your dreams.
Seek all the help you can to make them come true.

Me : Why am I worthy of having my dreams come true?

Psychologist : Simple, because I deserve to have my dreams come true,
my Secretary deserves to have her dreams come true,
my Son deserves to have his dreams come true,
my 5th grade teacher deserves to have his dreams come true,
everyone deserves to have their dreams come true,
including you.

It is a human right.
Just as every human being has the right to freedom, respect, clean drinking water, good food, a meaningful job, and so on.

Me : Many people don't have these things.

Psychologist : Right, that just means it's vital to keep working towards this goal,
all of us,
and that means helping each other realize each other's dreams.

Me : ...

Psychologist : Again, you have your dreams, your goals, how long do you want to wait for them to come true? How long do you want to try to make them come true all on your own?
Don't wait too long.
You can feel life passing by.

It's simple.
If you've tried to do it on your own, and you can't,
then it's time to seek out help,
otherwise, time will pass by, and you will not have achieved your goals and dreams,
or even feel that you had made progress towards achieving them,
and the frustration will build inside of you,
and sour the entirety of your life.

Psychologist : Ask yourself,
"How much life am I willing to let pass me by before I ask for help living it to its fullest?"

If You Don't Know What To Do : Feel

"If You Don't Know What To Do : Feel.
If Your Feelings Are Spent : Think.
If Your Thoughts Are Muddled : Sleep.
If You Can't Sleep : Do.
And If You Are Paralyzed,
Unable To Act In Any Way :Wait.

Something Will Happen.

The Nature Of The Universe Will Assure That.

Do Everything Fully,
And Eventually You Will Find Something To Keep You Moving Forward." - David Julio Wang

Throughout the majority of my life,
I thought I had to think my way out of my problems.

Just keep them inside and ruminate them until a solution of some sort became apparent.

I know that doing so caused me to leave my feelings behind,
and feelings are integral to who I am,
leaving them behind left me living with only part of who I am,
and I felt disjointed and out of sorts.

Now, I know that my feelings are essential to a feeling of completeness in my life.
But, when I'm emotionally spent,
I can think.
When I can't think anymore, I can sleep.
And if I'm absolutely spent in every way,
I can wait.

Something will happen.
It always does.
Such is the nature of existence.

When You Feel Stuck And Unable To Move On

"When You Feel Stuck And Unable To Move On,
Feel And Feel Deeply.
(Try Not To Ignore Or Distract Yourself From Your Feelings)
Allow Your Feelings To Build Up Inside Of You,
Until They Become A Powerful Enough Force To Free You.
Then You Can Move On." - David Julio Wang

When you're stuck,
a push or a pull is required to unstick you.
A stuck wagon.
A stuck truck.
A struck person.
A stuck ball.
Anything stuck requires an exertion of energy to dislodge it.

Looking at it from a purely Physics point of view,
an input of Energy is required when something is stuck in
a motionless state.
To get a stationary object to move,
requires the application of Force or Energy.
The heavier the object,
the more resistance inherent in the object,
the greater the force of Energy required to cause the object to move.

When You Go On A Trip, You Remember The Highlights, But It Is The Little Details Which Made It A Trip, And Not Just A Destination

When you go on a trip,
you remember the highlights,
but not all the details,
but it is the little details which made the trip a journey,
and not just a destination,
without the details,
the trip would have just been going from one place to another.

Oftentimes, people will wonder why it is so difficult for you to do things.
To them it is just so easy to get from Point A to Point B,
but that is because they do not know all the invisible points which lie between.

The 2 Great Emotional Keys To Self - Integration

They are 2 simple statements,
direct, instinctive reactions,to life experiences,
which indicate, one's emotional resonance to an experience.

1. That feels right
2. That doesn't feel right

These are emotional clues to the state of your feelings.

Act in Accord with your feelings,
or you risk causing a split within yourself.

Don't Feel Quite Right, Don't Feel Truly Good, Don't Feel Genuinely Happy, Don't Worry. You're Perfectly Normal

"Don't Feel Quite Right, Don't Feel Truly Good, Don't Feel Genuinely Happy, Don't Worry.
You're Perfectly Normal." - David Julio Wang

The Human Experience has been a very long and painful one for our species.

Miscommunication.
Misunderstanding.
Missed Feelings.

We are all covered with scars, and tattered and torn from countless wounds, both seen, and mostly, unseen.

So, when you are contemplating the fact that you are afraid to turn your head and look at your feelings,
don't feel you are alone,
you are not,
you are another, perfectly normal, fairly neurotic, human being.

And don't worry.
Things are going to get better.
The more we talk freely and openly about our feelings,
the healthier and happier and wholer our species will be.

Hold on.
Things are going to become truly good.

Walk Your Own Path, Even If You Believe You Know The Outcome,

"Walk Your Own Path, Even If You Believe You Know The Outcome.
For Walking The Path Presents Details You Had Never Thought Of Before,
And It Is These Details, These Little Moments, Which Truly Add Color To Your Life."
- David Julio Wang

Most people would have worded this advice as,
"Sometimes you just have to make your mistakes before you learn."

I cannot stand the patronizing, condescending, irritated tone I associate with the hearing of this advice.
It is advice one could give to a child,
but giving the advice does not mean the child is stupid.

We have to stop treating each other so poorly.
Can't we see the pain we cause? the lasting damage?

Life thought of as triumphs and mistakes is a very black and white world indeed,
and lest we forget,
"human beings see in color."

If You Cannot Push Yourself, Allow Others To Push You, Until Enough Momentum Builds Inside Yourself, That You Are Able To Move On Your Own

"If You Cannot Push Yourself, Allow Others To Push You,
Until Enough Momentum Builds Inside Yourself,
That You Are Able To Move On Your Own." - David Julio Wang

I have always doubted myself and let fear strangle me.

The admonition push yourself was always playing itself in my mind,
but it was fear which drove me.

This is not a world of being true to yourself yet,
it is still a world of wearing masks to protect ourselves.

If such a world is tiresome to you,
but, like me,
you are too scared to act on your feelings,
let others push you around,
you will still be true to yourself,
and one day,
the caterpillar of your true self will be ready to emerge as a butterfly of true self expression.

Always Listen To Your Heart, Even When What It Says Is Excrutiatingly Painful, For Your Heart Is Who You Truly Are

"Always Listen To Your Heart, Even When What It Says Is Excrutiatingly Painful, For Your Heart Is Who You Truly Are.
Deny Your Heart,
And You Deny Yourself,
And You Will Always Be Left Feeling That You Have Never Lived Your Life."
- David Julio Wang

All the girls I was drawn to, but never talked to.

All the people I was drawn to, but never spoke to.

All the adventures I was drawn to, but never went on.

All the things I never said, but needed to.

Always held back by fear of being hurt.

Always feeling the sands of time slipping by around me,
but always ignoring them believing that someday I would stop letting them slip.

Draw Your Lines In Life. This Far, No Further.

"Draw Your Lines In Life. This Far, No Further.
So That Life Does Not Pass You By." - David Julio Wang

If you do not draw lines for yourself,
lines of what you are not willing to let pass by you in life,
you can find that life has passed you by,
without you ever having lived it.

I'm 29 and I have never had a real relationship with a girl.

Pathetic. I know.

Why?
I don't like myself enough to feel worthy to pursue a relationship.

My apologies if this is too much information,
but take it as a caution,
a warning,
"The Regrets Of The Older, Are The Lessons Of The Younger."

Put Your Words Outside Of Yourself

"Hold Your Words Outside Of You,
Like Precious Stones To Be Examined Under the Light Of Someone Else's Truth."
- David Julio Wang

Put your words out of you.
When you show them to others,
You hold them up for you yourself to look at and contemplate.

Feel And Feel Deeply, For The More Feelings You Have, The More Fuel You Have For Actions

"Feel And Feel Deeply, For The More Feelings You Have,
The More Fuel You Have For Actions.
The Purer Your Feelings,
The Purer The Fuel For Actions You Will Have."
- David Julio Wang

My feelings are always very strong.
Pulsing deep inside of me like the powerful heart-fueled experiences they are.

I need to reason out why I have such powerful emotions and how I can use them to guide my way.

Set Limits Which Resonate With Your Inner Truth

New Year's Resolutions are an example of foolish limits which do not add to a person's life for they are made with the cheap plastic of party favors.

No.

True Resolutions are ones which come from the heart,
and that is where they should be made from.

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True Limits are ones which you can feel resonating with yourself,
which feel like they have the Light Of Truth in them.

True Limits don't feel like limits, rather they feel like signs which tell you where you need to go.

Allow Yourself To Be Rejected, For The Agony Of Rejection, Truly Felt, Can Be Turned Into The Energy Of Truth

"The Meeting Of Truths."

When you present your truth to another person,
when you present it fully and honestly and truthfully,
you are in a position to receive truth back.

It very often is frightening though, because so very often the truth you have to say is one which others do not want to hear,
a truth which illicits anger in others.

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Thinking this has always paralyzed me with fear.

Even though the need to do so was pressing...so very pressing.

Set "True" Limits, So Life Does Not Pass You By

"Set Limits, So Life Does Not Pass You By."

Fear is a perfectly natural feeling, but it can result in you letting life pass you by.

It is easy to take the more familiar path,
the easier path,
the path which is less frightening,
but doing so can leave you feeling reamed out and hollow inside.

That is why it is a good idea for you to set limits on how far you will let your life slide before you will make sure that you act.

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Now, I have always personally rebelled against the idea of setting limits.
It felt too constrictive and restrictive and I highly value my freedom to direct and guide my own life without the idea that I am bound nor committed to any one path.

But nearly 30 years (god...so much wasted life...) of having lived a life which feels devoid of purpose and joy is enough.
I'm exhausted with regrets...

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I thought it would be illustrative to write down some of the limits which I will not compromise on.

1. Sun Protection
I can't go out in the sun without a Legionnaire Style Sun Hat, Sunglasses (with 100% UVA / UVB protection), and Sunscreen.
My face is already a far cry from the image I had of myself as an adult.
I do not want to further compound my disgust, by continuing to wantonly go out in the sun and have my skin battered and destroyed by its unforgiving rays.

2. Brushing My Teeth
I very occasionally forget to brush my teeth or am too exhausted to do so, but most of the time I'm very good about it.
...sorry if that's too much information, but, i'm tired of lying all the time, or, even holding back.

I'm tired of the gross feeling I get on my teeth when I haven't brushed.
I also miss how beautiful and white my teeth were when I was younger...

3. Washing My Hands
Something which I won't compromise on is washing my hands before I eat.
Thanks Mom!
I don't know if it correlates exactly, but when I don't wash my hands and I eat, I often feel sick afterwards.
Whether or not this is exactly right, the habit of washing my hands is one which I won't yield on.

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hmm...not a very long list...
I guess I don't have a lot of limits which are set deep into my being.

I just haven't lived enough life to know what are true limits for myself.

But,
I do know,
that if a person does not set True Limits for themselves,
their life can pass them by and leave them feeling that they never lived it.

I do know that the secret to setting limits which a person can live with,
limits which will truly help a person to live their life,
is to set limits which reflect a person's internal truth.

The advice I would have given to my younger self would have been to search my inner truth for the limits of my life which i couldn't live with letting pass,
so I wouldn't let those experiences pass me by.